Free will and how true we are to ourselves
We all know that God has a lot of powers but he still does not interfere in anyone's free will. When we talk about free will , we are talking about one's right to choose. The right to decide what I want for myself. Why is so much stress or importance given to the free will? This is the only thing they say, where God does not use interfere. If a man decides to do something, even the Gods don't have the right to take that decision away from him. So is the case with the soul. So very often, you may have heard people saying, that so and so was predicted by a very good astrologer but it never happened. This is because our free will is so much stronger than any prediction or any desire of anyone else. It's even stronger than our own birth charts. So, in fact, it is this free will that we use to create or manifest things for ourselves . When a man strongly decides to do something and his energies are directed to knowing what he wants, to focusing on getting what he wants, and then working on what he wants, creation takes place. Or in other words manifestation takes place. But there is one thing I would like to mention here. It's that most people do not know how strong they are. Yes, they do struggle as teenagers , for freedom and as they grow older, they start to succumb to the pressures of the society and to the pressures of being dutiful adults.We never realize, during the course of growing up, how we lose ourselves.We stop becoming us and we turn into what others want us to become.
Knowing Yourself
Today, I was talking to a client of mine. She was quite
upset because she was not getting the desired response from a guy she was
interested in.
She called me and told me that she does not want to get married
at all because she was fed up of men treating her in a certain manner over and
over again.
Now just look at what she was telling me....... That 'she does not
want to get married at all .' I tried telling her to not to utter those words
again and again so as to avoid attracting negative energies......but she was in
no mood to listen ...... So I finally said to her that she is free to make her
choices even though I knew that that is not what she really wanted. I kept the phone and prayed for her.
After a few minutes I receive a message from her on my phone apologizing to me
for sounding the way she did....... Now I understood how she must be feeling
because I didn't get offended by her at all. I was, in fact able to empathize
with her completely.
In her message that she sent me, she told me that she was
angry at the man's non responsive reaction. Now look at this situation.....
Just look at it from a distance. This lady in question has attracted the same
response to her from more than one person. And now that she is not getting the
desired reaction from the current man, she wants to drop the entire situation.
She does not want to get married because she feels that she will attract the
same behavior again and again.
But the thing is that she was not being honest
with herself and with me. You can always say what u want and say exactly what
is inside of you . Why do you want to get married to this man? Do u like him or
do you like what he may probably be able to offer you? Are you getting married
because you want to get away from where you live or the people you live with?
And believe me if this is the real reason then your situation or circumstance
is not leaving you....... You will get similar minded people to live with in
your new house....
What will u do then? Run again? And how many times will you
run? And for how many life times? How many of you do face this situation?
How
many of you changed jobs and landed up in similar situational jobs with the
same KIND of colleagues........
Recognize your core people......... If you want something then at least
KNOW WHY YOU WANT IT....... And then one thing leads to the other. Then you'll
know from whom you want it.... To what extent you want it and so on and so
forth...... But all of this will be for real..... It'll all be for the real
reasons.
Mantra Chants
The other day my son asked me ' Mom, why do you spend so
much time doing the mantra chants that your Babaji has given you'.
My instant
answer was because my Guruji said 'Do these chants everyday and you will know
the difference. Even if you don't
feel for the Mother energy just do it....... With or without feelings...... If
you do it with feelings, even better. If you do it without feelings you at
least get some results.'
Me being
the ardent follower of my Guruji, I started my practices religiously......
At
first, it was really difficult .
Imagine when you sit down and suddenly you
start thinking of ten thousand other things that you could have done in that
much time. It's not easy for a person who has a really full life which is true
for everyone living in a busy city like Mumbai.
But I was really adamant this
time round.( having started practices before and then leaving it..... This had
happened quite a few times.) I
said to myself.........' just the way eating,sleeping,bathing, and doing so
many other things have become a habit for me , meditation and chanting should
also become a habit.' And I sat
and I sat and I sat day after day......every single day.
And quite rightly so I
started feeling the energies, the vibrations, the relaxation..... But you know
how people are....... Unless they get tangible results, they dont think
anything has really happened. And I was the same.
I too waited to see if there
really was a difference in my life. Now the thing is that most of the times
people look for a difference in the external regions. People and even I for
that matter thought that something magical will happen and things will
change. But the fact is that those
things around you will happen, situations may not change, but my reaction to
those situations changed.
And because my reaction changed, the situation calmed
itself down and ultimately disappeared. And then last night I read in a book
that the chants create and attract energies. Initially that energy may be only
a spark. But then it becomes a fire gradually and that fire becomes a fountain
of light in which you can get submerged. Wow...... What an experience that will
be when it happens. See you soon
right here.
Forgive but do not forget
I met someone today and during the course of our conversation,
I realized that this person had an issue letting go of her past.
A lot of times our past memories may be of
what people have done to us. And believe you me, it is bloody difficult to let
go of what THAT ONE PERSON DID. Being on the spiritual path, I have learnt that
FORGIVENESS is the key to travel higher and faster on the journey of
spirituality........
Hmmm but it is so so so so difficult to forgive.
'Do you
know what that person did?' 'Do you have any idea how he/she behaved?' 'No I
don't.' But give me one person who has not faced difficult people or difficult
times.' All of us do...... And these difficult people and difficult times teach
you to be who you are really meant to be...... So, instead of grudging these
people, forgive them and thank them...... Forgive them so that YOU can live in
the present and more peacefully.
But don't forget what they did to you because
that could be their inherent nature. If its in the nature of a dog to bark, it
will bark. Because that's the nature of the dog. So be aware of the person's
nature and protect yourself in whatever best way that you can........ And
forgive...... And remember..... Because you have a duty towards
yourself........
The importance of different opinions
We feel that people change. But that's a little difficult.
People don't really change. Yes , over a period of time after all the fights
and disagreements, their reactions may become a little subdued. But what they
are and what you are will always remain the same at the core of the being. No
matter what. And this is a little difficult to change. Because if people
changed so easily, then what would be so different between people. It would be
easy..... I would just say,' Hey Tom, I don't like this about you.' And the
next day you would have a different Tom standing in front of you. And then
what? Every time somebody told ' a Tom to change' he would change....... There
would be no individuality left. So
, in a way, it's good that people don't change the minute you disagree them. It
just means that they have a spine, that they can think for themselves.......
They have an opinion and may be their opinion will make you think about your
opinions. You wouldn't want to live or be with someone who just got swayed by
what you said right? Look at it this way ...... Maybe you and the other person
or people should learn to co- exist. In this way, you will be able to build a
smarter world, a better world.
Solve your own problems
Very often I wonder why we want to continue to feel
miserable about a certain situation.
At some point we all do feel helpless or victimized. Sometimes we feel
like a victim of a situation and at other times we feel like a victim of other
people….. My question is that have we ever thought why we blame people or
situations for our discomforts……. Why cant we take responsibility for what is
happening to us. And what is the
best option under the given circumstance. It is extremely liberating to know
that we have the power to change things around us. All we have to do is to just
view the situation from a distance. View it as an outsider. And when you’re
doing this, try and be as uninvolved as possible…At this point, we will be able
to view this situation as an outsider. And we definitely are very good at
giving advice to an outsider because we can invariably pick up the mistakes
that the other person is making. Now if we give ourselves advice and take that
advice, we may be able to solve our own problems……
Mother Goddess
Be aware of the energies of the Mother Goddess....... Love
her. Ask for protection and guidance ..... Those who worship her out of greed
and fear will get limited grace..... Those who love and worship the Mother as
if she's your own, will get abundance. Happy Navrati.
Our Elements
If we understand our true nature, we will know how connected
we are to everything around us. All that exists around us, tells us about our
own true nature. If we look at everything, and actually see how those things
function, we will understand how to function ourselves. We have to be
constantly reflecting on ourselves and see if we are in tune with our own
existence. And the truth is that we learn about our existence from the nature
around us.......
Trees - what is that we feel when we look at
trees? Color , freshness, we know
that we get oxygen. Strength - to stand still whatever may happen. Trees give
us shade- an unconditional service without judging whom I should provide that
service to.. The trees,
flowers, fruits show us how we should add color to our lives. It would be so
boring if we did not have plants around us...
Sun - we get
light from the sun, again an unconditional service with a non judgemental
attitude. The sunshine gives a good, happy feeling. Sunrise and sunset may give
a feeling of calmness to us. But most importantly, it gives us the knowledge
that every sunrise is a new beginning and every sunset is the end of one day and that's when we rest to get
over the events of that particular day. At the end of every journey is a rest
period.
Water -
calmness, serenity, flow, stillness. Water shows us how to flow with
life . Whatever we have been dealt out with, if we flow with that, we will
allow cleansing to take place at the deepest level. It's like a twin- edged
sword...... You flow with the flow of life and work out your karmic cycle...
Mountain - Majestic
, to hold oneself high against all odds ( weathering) because I believe in
myself. Figure out what material is your rock made up of , accept it, and then
bring about a change that you want to bring about. Again , standing still and
strong . A group of mountains may echo your voice... So strong enough people
will tell you what you already know.... They will reflect your own thoughts,
ideas, etc.
Sky - soothing, space, infinite, openness ,
vastness,movement,freedom. The sky gives us the feeling of space where we can
fly. The feeling of freedom to just go where we want to go. To give us the
upward movement. The feeling of growth. And infinite growth.
Wind - gives direction.. To know that we have to move in the
same direction so that we can be in synchronization. If we oppose, if we
resist, we will have to fight and face all odds. I have to direct my inside to make the direction for the
wind to go in the direction that I want. Make way for what I want.
Earth - mother earth.... Bearing the burden - unconditionally
- allows stability.... Gives support so that we can stand. Mother earth also
allows the other elements to co- exist with us. The earth element in us gives
us grounding and the right to enjoy the basic things in life. The earth element
is also used to ground one's thoughts....
Fire - Light. How do I use the fire in me? I use the fire in
me as the driving force by the inner guidance I receive.....(I.e) if I am in tune with myself and am ready
to listen to my inner voice. Also I have to have the courage to stand up for my
inner guidance. The same fire could become wild and uncontrollable if I feed it
with negative information and this fire could burn me down. If I direct this
fire, I can use it to burn my own 'kleshas'..... my own negative emotions.
